“Friendship is always a sweet responsibility, never an opportunity,” said, Khalil Gibran. To celebrate a happy friendship day, we wait for a complete year, but I always feel friendship should be celebrated every day.
The purest, the most amicable, and the least judgmental relationship that exists between persons has to be friendship, undoubtedly. Friendship always comes with the best of mental peace, well-being, and happiness.
Friendships have a significant impact as well as an everlasting effect on our lives and our mental health. True friends will always bring out the best in you, but it’s not easy to develop or maintain friendships. One needs to understand the social benefits as well as personal well-being that friendship brings into our life.
Developing and maintaining a friendship
Healthy friendships are often like wine, it only gets better with time. Friendships help a person recover from stress in their lives and find a new meaning again in their lives be it their relationship problem, career-related problems, or family problems.
They always stand as a rock behind your back and remain always ready to catch you in any situation.
Very few people receive the good fortune of having the asset of a healthy friendship in their lives. Developing a friendship requires understanding, time, support, love, and most importantly non-judgmental behavior.
You can never become friends with every other person you meet every day. However, to make friends you need to have some socializing skills and some unique attributes which can get the attention of others.
Social media can be a great medium for making new friends or reconnecting with old friends or nurturing an old friendship. You can always develop friendships with whom you work at your workplace as well as those also you meet in social clubs or parties.
The most vital or tough part that arises in any relationship in this world is the ways to maintain it. To maintain a healthy friendship, one needs to imbibe/have some qualities within themselves. Some of the qualities which I believe will give you the gift of a long-lasting friendship are:
- Being mild and compassionate: The primary characteristic that one needs to have to develop friendship is being mild and compassionate towards the other person.
- Opening up: One should always try to build intimacy with their friends about their experiences on various aspects of life and how they have dealt with them.
- Make yourself trustworthy: One has to be enough reliable and responsible to be trusted in friendship. It is one of the major factors for the development and maintenance of an everlasting healthy friendship
- Increase your availability: Building a healthy friendship requires time. Make sure you are available to your people when they need you, and you manage your time for them. Always try to check on them and arrange for meet-ups in between.
- Try to open up: Always try to share your inner feelings with the reliable persons in your life. Friendships develop very well when you give the opposite person an indication of the fact that they are the people to whom you can actually be yourself.
Does gender matter in friendships?
Every year we celebrate happy friendship day so that we can always be with the persons we love and adore. Friendships are never categorized on the basis of gender and should never be also.
Both men and women have different ideas of friendships and the perception they carry also differs to a larger extent.
Men often emphasize and believe in the power of togetherness or joint activities whereas women always tend to stay within the limited connectivity in their lives. They hardly believe in togetherness when it comes to friendships.
Having said that, differences do exist. Opposite-sex friendships still remain the most high-quality friendships to date. Rejecting the old-school theories, we have come a long way. A girl and a boy becoming the best of friends are a very frequent relationship nowadays.
These friendships evolve very fast and deepen within a very short period of time. The most possible reason for this I feels, understanding the perspectives and lives of the different genders.
The less dramatic and the less judgmental friendships that exist between humans have to be male friendships. It’s always a very relaxed relationship and a homely feeling.
The greatest factor which I believe exists in male friendships is unending support and love. They can be very mean and say the shittest things to your face, but they will always have your back whenever the need arises. You can be the best of friends and still have one or two photos in your whole span of friendship throughout the years. Males get along very well together and in no time, they become friends. All they need is some beer and some discussion on sports, I believe.
Aging becomes easier with healthier friendships
You will have to walk the path of life together if you want to reach far. Normally as we age, we become lonely, and it becomes difficult to communicate with anybody, not even our spouse if there is no friendship.
Healthy friends always give us a reason for hope and enjoyment in life. With friends, you never feel the time going by.
Friendships often provide the best medicine for our leisure hours and there can be no great companion than your friends to cheer you up in your darkest hours.
Celebrate a happy friendship day everyday
To celebrate a relationship like friendship, a particular day is not enough. The effects that friendship has on our lives can never be measured.
Be it male friendships, or opposite-sex friendships each and every type of friendship blossoms very well if provided the required time and effort.
As I always believe we can share almost everything with our friends even our darkest secrets without the fear of being judged which becomes somehow impossible even with parents or spouses also.
So, to celebrate such treasures in our lives, we should celebrate every day by being their constant companion and always being by their side in their darkest times. As said by Frances Ward Weller,
“A friend can tell you things, you don’t want to tell yourself”.
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