Circumscribing any bond between two persons due to their age difference in relationships can never stay durable in the long run. Every relation in this world requires patience, perseverance and effort.
Love can from anywhere, it’s never limited to romantic relationships because as a matter of fact this assumption is quite stereotyped in our so-called societal norms that whenever relationship and love both comes hand-in-hand, the first thing that netizens presume is romantic relationships which is not always the case. Every relation in this world shines and blossoms in its own way and in its own space.
According to Henric Frederic Amiel
“Love alone can rekindle life.”
The main question now arises that “Do age difference in relationships matter?” Today if we talk about a father-son relationship or a mother-daughter relationship we normally tend to incline to the fact that feelings of daughter or son can never be fully felt or empathized by parents because of the age factor. Age difference in relationships do play a role but I would like to believe that its merely a minor one. Your age difference can never be a reason of your relation’s growth or downfall.
Accept your age difference in relationships to cultivate it
Today, wherever you go and in whichever corner of the world you walk through you will see people enjoying, smiling and having a good time with their loved ones, at least outside their homes. The clear indication that you get after seeing someone smile is that everything is possibly going well with that person but very few will know that smiling or laughing has nothing to do with happiness because let’s accept the fact “A smile or laugh can always be faked”.
A corporate office or a glass of whiskey can never make you happy, it can only make you strong enough to accept the reality because a job pays the bills, and a whiskey consoles the emotions. The thing that makes a person strong or happy is the mental state and peace of mind which one can only get with the loved and comfortable people of his/her life.
As I always say or believe that “Being someone’s friend is never easy” and there is no other greater relation in this world as friendship. By this, I would like to clarify, that a father-son can be best friends too, a brother-sister can be best friends too and a husband-wife can be best friends too. Friendships are never limited to your school or college; it can happen anywhere.
The only thing that it requires is a suitable ground for acceptance and understanding before judgment and analysis. So, to accept the fact that yes, we do have a much “Age difference in our relationship” and moving on to grow and cultivate your relations really makes a difference. Age has never been the deciding factor for any relation and believe me when I say this, because experience does matter, I guess.
How to deal with age difference in relationships
Humans are always a prey to the superstitious beliefs and norms. No matter however modern a person is, some beliefs always tend to stick to their mind that whatever has been followed or whatever “I” have seen is correct and makes sense.
The constant allowance of dominance in relationships started from the very early stages where child marriages used to exist. The whole idea that a husband should always dominate his spouse mainly came due to the “Age difference is relationships” which existed very vividly in earlier times and now too in some parts of the world.
It is highly misrepresented and a very blunt idea that men are always assumed to be dominative toward their younger ones be it their wife, child or siblings. In case of romantic relationships, a husband merely due to greater physical strength and high income is always expected to be dominative and try to take a control over his wife’s life and choices. However, things are changing with the advent of social media.
I would like to bring in notice one such incident that I came across on the internet https://qr.ae/prr1yH. The thoughts, the beliefs are all going for a toss which maybe slow but it’s happening very confidently. The whole idea of dominance is not coming into picture even between parents and children too, because as a matter of fact new-age parents never tries to force their ideas, beliefs and choices to their children. So, to sum up, dominance never strengthens any relation neither makes it durable, rather than that every relation should be cultivating enough to create an example.
Maturity never increases with age
Whenever we talk about “Age difference in relationships”, it is a common perception and assumption that the elder one will always be more mature and sensible, however this is also a myth that has been circulating for a very long period of time and requires correction. From childhood we are taught that you should always look up to your seniors be it your father/mother, brother/sister, teachers etc., but the fact that arises is, does everyone who is senior to us can be looked upon as an example? The answer is a clear “NO”.
I quite firmly believe that age has nothing to do with maturity because a person becomes mature and sensible with experiences not with age. As your age increases, only your size grows not your sensibleness. Every senior can’t be a role model in your life and never be someone whose qualities you would like to imbibe. As the popular line says, “Quotes won’t work unless you do”, same happens with “Relations never work unless you manifest”.
Every bridge would look good if viewed from the top but the look also exist because there is support from underneath, likewise in human relations you can never look good or be good if there is no support from behind because chairs also need legs to stand and each and every person in this world requires support and encouragement to stand confidently which your senior loved ones can provide be it your parents, siblings or your spouse but obviously a proper senior person not just for namesake.
So, to conclude my article I would like to end it with a quote from the famous Gloria Steinem:
“Far too many people are looking for the right person instead of being the right person.”
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